Let’s face it; no one likes to be ignored. When someone ignores
us, we may think they are rude or angry. This can have a negative impact on
relationships. There are many reasons a student may ignore others.
Understanding the reasons and teaching students how to respond in expected ways
will help them develop positive relationships and feel successful. Today's Sensational Social Skills will provide strategies for teaching students to Respond to Others.
To teach
your student how to respond to others in an expected way, we implement the
Pillars of Performance (PoP) framework below. PoP is a framework we use to help students
acquire and apply social skills. These pillars include: PRACTICE, PRIME, PROMPT
& PRAISE.
First, introduce the concept of responding to
others with a social narrative like the one below:
Social
Narrative: Responding to others is important. When you ignore people,
they may think you didn’t hear them or you didn’t understand. They may worry
that you are mad or that you just don’t care. If a person tosses you a ball,
you catch it and throw it back. Think of responding as a game of catch. You
don’t have to say much. Just acknowledge the person in a thoughtful way. When
you respond to others in a pleasant way, you will build positive relationships
that will keep you feeling happy.
Click the image below for a free handout of the Respond to Others PoP card. Print,
cut out and laminate the card to use as a visual support when teaching this
skill.
Let’s PRACTICE!
Practice
makes perfect. In order to master any skill you need to deliberatly practice
the skill. This makes it much easier to apply the skill in the moment when you
need it the most. Try some of these practice activities to strengthen skills.
Repeat, repeat, then repeat.
1. Catch it and toss it back- When you greet students in the morning, get their
attention and toss them a ball. Make it super easy to catch or pretend with an
“invisible” ball. Encourage them to catch the ball and return the ball back to
you with a greeting. You can also do this activity when asking students
questions. The goal of this activity is to teach students to reciprocate. When
asking questons, be sure to allow plenty of time for the student to process the
question and formulate a response (up to 30 seconds). If your student does not have the language to
answer questions, provide multiple choice with text or pictures. Here is an example of students answering
questions using picture supports.
3. Catch it and keep it- If your student does not want to interact for some
reason, teach them a polite way to disengage. When practicing scripts, practice
both verbal and nonverbal communication. The student can use a script, write a
note or use gestures to respond. Consider why the student does not want to
engage. Are they overwhelmed, unsure or upset? Help them feel calm. Provide
them with communication supports. Some students don’t know how to deal with
conflict and may withdraw. Click the image below for some tips to responding to conflict in a
nice way.
Time to
PRIME!
Use the priming bullets on the Respond to Others card to review the
strategies you have practiced. If these strategies are fresh in the mind of
your student, the student is more likely to apply the strategies. Make a point
of reviewing these strategies prior to situations where you find your student
withdrawing and ignoring others. Provide
scripts to help your student with specific response language. If your student
prefers to write their response, provide notepaper or a dry erase board. Review
the SPLAT strategies. Next, have the student engage in the calming strategy for
a minute or more. These are all
strategies that have been practiced so the student should be very familiar with
how to implement them. The priming session should be a positive pep talk to
review these strategies and instill confidence in your student. If the student does not like to talk about
it, simply give them the card or scripts as a visual reminder. By priming the
student, you are setting them up for success.
PROMPT
Even with a priming session, the student may struggle
to respond in the moment. Remember to
allow plenty of time for your student to initiate a respond before you begin
prompting. You can point to the respond image on the card or the appropriate script.
If you or the student has a visual SPLAT reminder, you can point to the
specific letter to prompt the needed strategy. If the student is becoming
frustrated or overwhelmed, prompt or model the use of the calming strategy.
Give PRAISE!
Our final pillar is the most important. We know that in
order to increase any skill we need to actively reinforce the skill. Any time you catch the student responding in
an expected way, give praise. If your student does not like verbal attention in
front of peers, you can devise a subtle way to reinforce such as giving thumbs
up, a sticker or a written note.
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That’s it! Those are the 4 pillars to teach your students to
respond to others. Each pillar is important in supporting the application and
generalization of these critical skills. Taking the time to implement all 4
pillars will result in the outcome you want. It may take some time, so be
patient and have fun with it. Teaching the skill with a positive attitude will
help the student develop a positive association with the strategies. Developing
your student’s confidence and ownership of the goal will help your student
succeed.
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