Listening to others is a critical social skill that
allows people to engage in a meaningful way. We know that listening is more
than hearing. Listening involves being able to filter out competing auditory
information. It requires focus and the ability to process language (both verbal
and nonverbal) and connect it to what we already know.
This week's Sensational
Social Skill will feature strategies to help students learn to listen to others
using the Pillars of Performance (PoP) framework. PoP is a framework we use to
help students acquire and apply social skills. These pillars include: PRACTICE,
PRIME, PROMPT & PRAISE. We have created a series of PoP cards to
directly teach critical social skills.
First, introduce the concept of listening to
others with a social narrative like the one below:
Social
Narrative: Listening to others is a
super skill for many reasons. You can
get important information from the other person. Listening to another person will help you
build a positive relationship. When you listen you have the information to make
better choices in what you do and say. Sometimes it is hard to listen. Here are
some tricks to help you be a better listener:
Click the image below for a free handout of the Listen to Others PoP card. Print,
cut out and laminate the card to use as a visual support when teaching this
skill.
Let’s PRACTICE!
Practice
makes perfect. In order to master any skill your student will need to
deliberatly practice the skill. This makes it much easier to apply the skill in
the moment when it is needed the most. Try some of these practice activities to
strengthen skills. Repeat, repeat, then repeat.
Time to
PRIME!
Use the priming bullets on the Listen to Others card to review the
strategies you have practiced. If these strategies are fresh in the mind of
your student, the student is more likely to apply the strategies. Make a point
of reviewing these strategies prior to situations where the student may
struggle with active listening. Provide graphic organizers to help focus listening. Finally, have the student engage in the
calming strategy for a minute or more to improve focus. These are all strategies that have been
practiced so the student should be very familiar with how to implement them.
The priming session should be a positive pep talk to review these strategies
and instill confidence in your student. If
the student does not like to talk about it, simply give them the card as a
visual reminder. By priming the student, you are setting them up for success.
PROMPT
Even with a priming session, the student may become distracted
and unable to listen. As the adult, consider what you can do in the moment to
help:
·
gain student attention (say name, tap arm or desk in a respectful,
non-punitive way)
·
reduce the complexity of your language, state
what to do
·
allow additional time (up to 30 seconds) for
student to process before re-prompting
·
refer to visual supports (PoP card, graphic
organizer, other related supports)
·
remove competing auditory input (consider noise,
music or other nearby conversations)
·
provide a fidget or alternative seating to
support regulation
·
prompt or model the use of a calming strategy (if
the student is showing signs of frustration or dysregulation)
Use the Listen to Others card as an in-the-moment visual prompt to focus on
listening.
Give PRAISE!
Our final pillar is the most important. We know that in
order to increase any skill we need to actively reinforce the skill. Any time you notice that the student is listening
to others, give them praise. If you
don’t want to distract others you can give praise nonverbally with a thumbs-up,
a sticker or a written note. Remember that it is much easier to notice
disruptive behavior, so you will need to make a conscious effort to catch and
reinforce the expected behavior.
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That’s it! Those are the 4 pillars to teach your student how
to be an active listener. Each pillar is important in supporting the application
and generalization of this critical skill. Taking the time to implement all 4
pillars will result in the outcome you want. It may take some time so be
patient and have fun with it. Teaching the skill with a positive attitude will
help the student develop a positive association with the strategies. Developing
your student’s confidence and ownership of the goal will help your student
succeed.
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