Do you have a student who always needs to win the
game or be first in line? Some students struggle to think beyond themselves.
This may impact their ability to develop positive relationships with peers. This week's Sensational Social Skills will
feature strategies to help students make others happy using the Pillars of
Performance (PoP) framework.
PoP is a framework we use to help students acquire
and apply social skills. These pillars include: PRACTICE, PRIME, PROMPT &
PRAISE. We have created a series of PoP cards to directly teach
critical social skills.
First, introduce the concept of thinking of others
with a social narrative like the one below:
Social
Narrative: Going first, being right or winning the game feels good
and makes us happy. Everyone can’t be
first or win every time. When you let others go first or you are a good sport
when they win, they like being with you because you make them happy. Practice
thinking of others and being kind and you will make friends and be happy!
Click the image below for a free handout of the Be Kind PoP card. Print,
cut out and laminate the card to use as a visual support when teaching this
skill.
Let’s PRACTICE!
Practice
makes perfect. In order to master any skill your student will need to
deliberately practice the skill. This makes it much easier to apply the skill in
the moment when it is needed the most. Try some of these practice activities to
strengthen skills. Repeat, repeat, then repeat.
5.
Social Behavior Flowchart- Help the student see the long term consequence of being
kind and thoughtful. Focus on the green path to make friends. Use this tool to
resolve social conflict by considering the thoughts and feelings of others and
identifying ways to compromise. Present this tool as a positive planning tool
rather than a punative reaction. By giving the student the power to make good
choices rather than coercing the student to comply, you will help develop the students intrinsic desire to
take responsibility and do the right thing. Click on the image below to get your free Social Behavior Flowchart!
Time to
PRIME!
Use the priming bullets on the Be Kind card to review the
strategies you have practiced. If these strategies are fresh in the mind of
your student, the student is more likely to apply the strategies. Make a point
of reviewing these strategies prior to situations where the student
demonstrates anxiety about winning, being first or being right. If a Social Behavior Flowchart has been
completed for a situation that may occur, this is a good time to quickly review
it. If you have been practicing a script,
provide a sentence strip to visually prime them for expected language. Finally,
have the student engage in the calming strategy for a minute or more. These are all strategies that have been
practiced so the student should be very familiar with how to implement them.
The priming session should be a positive pep talk to review these strategies
and instill confidence in your student. If
the student does not like to talk about it, simply give them the card as a
visual reminder. By priming the student, you are setting them up for success.
PROMPT
Even with a priming session, the student may
become anxious or excited and forget to think of others. Use the Be Kind card as an in-the-moment, nonverbal prompt to be
kind. If the student is showing signs of escalation, prompt or model the use of
the calming strategy. Consider other nonverbal prompts such as tapping on the
sentence strip (script) to cue positive language.
Give PRAISE!
Our final pillar is the most important. We know that in
order to increase any skill we need to actively reinforce the skill. Any time you notice that the student is thinking
of others and being kind, give them praise. Encourage peers to give positive feedback and facilitate
the student’s intrinsic motivation for developing positive relationships.
That’s it! Those are the 4 pillars to teach your student how
to be kind and begin developing positive peer relationships. Each pillar is important in supporting the
application and generalization of these critical skills. Taking the time to
implement all 4 pillars will result in the outcome you want. It may take some
time so be patient and have fun with it. Teaching the skill with a positive
attitude will help the student develop a positive association with the
strategies. Developing your student’s confidence and ownership of the goal will
help your student succeed.
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